#0 - Dec. 17, 2009, 7:36 p.m.
Last night we were slated to go into ICC10 with our "A" team, best geared people from toc25/togc10. Raid leader is an hour late, which is nothing unusual, but some of us decided we would just go without him, not knowing if he would show up at all.
Marrowgar goes down without incident. Shawl of Nerubian Silk, 72agi/61sta/41hit/56exp/122ap, drops. The raid leader, a very good DK dps, is the leader and master looter.
RL: roll mainspec
RL rolls a 3. The hunter in our group does not need it.
Me (raid chat): am I allowed to roll on that?
No response, he loots to himself.
We're clearing deathwhisper trash when I send him a tell
Me: hey, i asked if i could roll on that and you didn't answer before you looted it.
RL: tough sh*t, you should've rolled.
Me: you said mainspec so I was trying to see if I was available since that cloak is terrible for you anyway.
RL: I need the hit/expertise and you should've rolled, you're a stupid f*ck for not doing it
Me: I asked you if I could and you didn't answer. if you are going to lead these raids when [leader] doesn't show, you need to handle things better.
RL: I didn't answer, that means you roll on it idiot
Me: You're being deliberately obtuse, I'm out
Then he goes off on me. I say "peace dudes" and drop raid and hearth. Now, these people are my friends, so everyone but him jumps on the guy after I explain why I left. They are left without their main tank, and I courteously explain to them why I'm leaving. It's not about the loot itself, but about how he treated me about it. Everyone else agrees, and the RL is not longer the lead of the group, one of our other members is, which is great. He still continues to b*tch me out in raid/guild chat, but by this time our regular RL comes on. I explain the situation to him about why I'm holding up the group and I'm about to log off.
He agrees that the DK is acting ridiculously and sorts it out. The rest of the raid forces him to ticket me the item, even though I've specified it's not about the loot, it's about his attitude. We continue the raid, I apologize to the group for holding them up, and I /w the DK "look I don't want to cause drama, can we bury this?" and he agrees. We proceed to 1-shot the rest of the raid and call it a night.
How should one handle a situation like this? Did I act correctly?
Now, I'm a respected member of this guild. I don't miss scheduled raids, I help people with what they need, I'm chill with everyone. I don't loot !%#*@. It has been decided that in [leader]'s absence, I will be leading instead because I've done it before. The only reason I wasn't leading last night was because I was in H-UP when they were forming up, and since we are all friends/guildies, we don't usually ever have problems.